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Cape Gazette FRIDAY, OCTOBER 25 - MONDAY, OCTOBER 28, 2013 57 Big Brothers and Big Sisters program recruiting mentors Molly MacMillan Big Brothers/Big Sisters has plenty of children who need mentors, but mentors of all ages are in short supply in Sussex County. Big Brothers/Big Sisters Pro- gram Manager Raymond Quillen said, "It's an issue we deal with nationally. We need money, but sometimes I think we need vol- unteers more." At Big Brothers/Big Sisters, case managers match youth ages 6 to 17 with adults who, after completing a background check and screening process, agree to act as mentors and friends to students who have been referred and are often from nontradi- tional or single-parent families. The program faces a shortage of mentors for all children, he said, but he would especially like to welcome more men into the program to serve as Big Brothers to kids looking for guidance. As many as 70 percent of the volunteers are women, Quillen said. "We would be ecstatic if we had volunteers for all the waiting kids," he said. "We really need men to step up and to help with the program." Case manager Nancy Raihaill said students and mentors are paired based on geographic lo- cation and common or shared interests to meet once a week in schools or several times monthly in a community setting. Mentors may help a student with schoolwork, but more often pairs spend time doing leisure- ly activities such as going out to dinner, catching a movie or playing sports and developing friendships Many times, students in the program will open up to a Big Brother or Big Sister about things they won't reveal to a parent or guardian, another benefit of the program, Quillen said. Instead of turning to peers, kids in the program may often seek out advice from their mentor and benefit from the counsel of an adult they trust. "We are trying to put them with a mentor and a friend," Raihall said. "Not someone to replace Mom or Dad." Anyone 18 years old to 80 can become a mentor, Quillen said. Younger mentors may do more high-energy activities with their littles, but often the older volun- teers have the most experience to share, he said. "Even the oldest volunteers have wisdom and interest in what kids are doing in their lives," Quillen said. Often, volunteers like Corie Charpentier - a graduate student at the University of Delaware Hugh R. Sharp Campus in Lewes - are surprised at how much they get from the experience as well. "I'm probably learning more than he is," Charpentier said, pointing to her "little brother," Gabe. "I was looking for an outlet other than work and school. It's nice to interact with someone other than scientists." For more information or to get involved as a mentor with Big Brothers/Big Sisters, visit www. or call 302-856-2918. MENTOR AND MOLLY MACMILLAN PHOTO BIG Sister Corie Charpentier, left, hangs with her little, Gabe. Tim f Christmas Ball fundraiser to take place Dec. 14 Tim Buckmaster worked in Delaware schools for more than 30 years. He began at Seaford High School as a teacher, and over his extensive career in edu- cation he moved to Indian River School District and became an assistant principal at both Sus- sex Central High School and Sussex Central Middle School. He eventually moved on to Cape Henlopen School District, where he was the principal of Beacon Middle School and later retired from the position of director of personnel in Cape Henlopen's administrative offices. Over those years, Buckmaster saw countless cases of child- hood hunger in schools. "Hunger knows no boundaries, except the limits we put on it," he says. While Buckmaster says that he expects to see hunger in cer- tain low-income communities, once he began work at Indian River School District, he realized that the need was pervasive. It was around that time he began purchasing extra food from the cafeteria and putting it in chil- dren's lockers. Buckmaster is reluctant to talk ConUnuedonpage58 There are a lot of everyday issues the average woman has to deal with on an ongoing basis. However, there is a point where we draw a line in the sand. I think I speak for many women when I say dealing with a vehicle that has problems is the line in the sand we will not cross. In other words, we would rather promote a rumor that says we have given birth to a child by Ray Lewis of the Baltimore Ravens, and that child is being raised in a monastery in Nepal. We would rather watch NASCAR 24/7, drink beer and be married to a guy named Psycho Bubba whose sole ambition is to talk baby talk to his seven pit bulls than deal with a disabled vehicle. You see, a woman's idea of a car, at least my idea, is that I put the key in the ignition, the car starts and runs and then I remove the key from the ignition and the car stops running. Is this a great county or what? Everything that happens in between as it relates to that vehicle is not in my universe. I'm sure that women, when it comes to car problems, unless of course you are the type of woman who is so tough your knuckles drag on the ground, would simply be rational enough to assess the situation, then run screaming into traffic like some magnetic field is pull- ing them into a complete state of madness. And that's just if there is a random noise coming from underneath the car. A major problem such as a flat tire means that the Earth has stopped rotating on its axis and will crash and bum within seconds. I bring this up in an effort to educate my readers, as I found myself in this predicament while driving into New York City. Right before the car entered the Holland Tunnel, the tire went, no doubt courtesy of all the construction nails scattered all over the road thanks to the wonderful nonstop projects by various departments of transportation. Now I am backed up with cars to the left of me, cars to the right of me, cabs behind me and semi trucks in front of me. My car is listing like a cruise ship grounded off the coast of Italy. I manage to limp to the side of the road into the arms of a Port Authority police officer. And you are going to be very surprised at the reactions from the mob all around me in vehicles, themselves trying to wade through this mess to get into New York City. They must have had some Delaware blood in them. At least a dozen drivers rolled down their windows with offers to help. Not one hom blasted over the holdup; not one person cursed me out and just about everyone gave me a thumbs- up or wished me luck. Is this a great country or what? You'll have to overlook my preaching here, but this is what the politicians in our Washington government don't understand. The goodwill and courtesy is not something you can legislate. We are a country of people who are decent, do the right thing, and help our fellow citizens. It's what we were born into, and you don't need regulations, paperwork, forms or any government booklet to tell you what is the right thing to do. The Port Authority police officer called for a tow truck after the car jack broke, and got me a car service to get me to my hotel. We both coped with another driver who pulled over and after finding out she had to drive through a tunnel to get into NYC, burst into tears because she is claustrophobic. We struggle with everyday problems, find solutions and reach out to one another. Washington and the media could take a lesson because as ordinary citizens, we still feel this is a great country. My car, not so much.